Best Practices for Addressing Names on Wedding Invitations

Wedding invitations are a blend of tradition and personal touch, requiring careful consideration when it comes to addressing names. Whether you opt for a formal or informal style, the way you address guests can significantly impact the overall feel of your event. Here are some guidelines to ensure your invitations are not only beautiful but also respectful and appropriate.

Formal Invitations

For a touch of formality, use the following format for married couples:

Mr. and Mrs. Brian PeaknuckleAddress on Separate Lines

If you plan to invite the family, consider:

The Brian Peaknuckle Family

This also works if the spouses have different last names. Ensure you have a reply card enclosed, allowing guests to specify the number from their family attending.

Informal Invitations

For a more casual tone, address your invitations as follows:

Sarah and Brian Peaknuckle

Inviting a Single Friend or Relative

If your friend or relative is not married, use appropriate titles:

If addressing a man: Mr. Brian Peaknuckle If addressing a single woman: Miss Sarah Peaknuckle or Ms. Sarah Peaknuckle

In an informal setting, drop the honorific:

Sarah Peaknuckle

Inviting Single Parents with Children

For single parents attending with their children, use:

The Sarah Peaknuckle Family

Children are typically not listed on the envelope, as the family unit is the focus.

Thank-You Notes

For formal thank-you notes, remember the traditional rules:

Address on the front: Mr. and Mrs. Brian Peaknuckle or Sarah Peaknuckle Start with the appropriate title:

Dear Mrs. Peaknuckle or Dear Sarah:

Note the punctuation: “:” for formal, “” for informal.

Sample Invitation Phrasing

Formal Invitation

Mr. and Mrs. John Smith have the pleasure of inviting Mr. and Mrs. Thomas Doe to the wedding of their daughter Priscilla to Mr. Robert Brown on day month year time at place. Reception to follow at  John Smith

Informal Invitation

Dear Tom and SylviaPriscilla is marrying Bob Brown on date at place and time. We’d love you to be  and Mary

Conclusion

These guidelines are tried and true, but ultimately, the choice is yours. Following traditional rules can help avoid unintentional offense, and applying these practices ensures that your event feels thoughtful and welcoming. Remember, if you're unsure, consider referencing books or magazines dedicated to etiquette for further guidance.

Lastly, always follow up with heartfelt thank-you notes. Whether you choose to conform to tradition or opt for a more contemporary style, your appreciation and gratitude will be cherished by those who attend.

Reference: Amy Vanderbilt, a renowned authority on etiquette and manners.